Hey Everybody. It’s been a while since anything went live, so I figured I’d give a quick look over the past year to catch everyone up.
The Start of Something New
This year was the start of a lot of new projects for me, including this blog! I’d had the idea now and again of writing about sexuality and thinking of giving a sort of casual advice. I wanted sex to be a normal topic of conversation rather than something you had to whisper about in back rooms and under your breath. I felt for a long time that I couldn’t just talk about the ideas of sex and how people did different things because there was so much weight on the topic. So, I finally coerced myself to try it out and see how things went. And I immediately gave myself a rigid schedule and tried to make it as ‘professional’ as I could without any prior writing work outside of school assignments and one academic paper I had co-written. Needless to say, that did NOT work out, but I’m still glad I’m here and still trying to make things work.
Getting By With a Little Help…
And if I’d known how awesome all the sex bloggers were, I’d have tried starting a lot sooner! I’ve met so many cool people that would give me advice, help me with ideas, and just generally put up with my shenanigans while I tried to figure out how Twitter “works”. If anything, just meeting the wonderful people in the community has made this a journey that I’d do all over again. I even got to meet a few of them in person! I got to talk to @Polyrolemodels and @TheFriskyFairy when they gave a talk and got a signed copy of “Love Is Not Colorblind” (That I swear I’ll finish reading once I pull it out of all of the boxes of books. More on that later.) If you ever get a chance to meet them, you should totally do so! I also met up with Taylor from @Feistyfoxfilms and they are…just the best. It was a great time of talking about almost everything till the coffee shop closed and they even took some really good pictures of me! Hopefully I’ll get a chance to meet up again whenever they’re in town.
Pardon Our Dust
The BIG news for the year, tho, was that we moved. My little family finally escaped apartment living and now we have a Real Adult House™ that we’re in the middle of setting up! It’s been something we’ve wanted for years, and we finally got it to work out. It’s also been part of the reason that my writing went down to nothing for about half the year. House hunting was a stressful, drawn-out process and I am glad that we found something before I had to kill my realtor. We’re still getting settled it and getting things set up, but it’s already shaping up to be home and I couldn’t be happier about that. We even have a gas stove and range! I’ve wanted one for the longest time and it’s DEFINITELY improved cooking.
Another big bit of news is that I started getting to do a lot more for my local kink and poly communities. I’ve been working on being more out and open in my offline life and while it’s still a struggle, I’m definitely glad I did. I got to be on a panel of other poly people talking about experiences with polyamory and a bit of how things are at the start. It was a little nerve-wracking as I don’t really FEEL like I’m any kind of expert, but was glad to share my experiences with other like-minded people.
And Ahead Into The Future
So, like I said, it was a pretty big year. But what about the next one? Obviously I’m going to still work on my writing and be a bit more active on my blog. I really want it to become a resource for people trying to navigate sexuality (Something that I’ve found you never get too old to do) and get over my own worries about whether or not it’ll be any good. I’m also planning to try and do more speaking opportunities so I can share more of my thoughts and experiences with people. There may also be some site changes as I figure out more of what I want to try and (hopefully) overall improvements to everything I put out.
So thank you to everyone I’ve met this year, everyone who’s read my bits of writing, and anyone that got something out of what I’ve done so far.
Here’s to many more years to come,